Him: I don’t date black women. It’s just a preference.
Me: Based on what?
Him: Nothing, it’s just how I feel.
Me: Impossible, deliberate aversions come from somewhere.
Him: Its just a preference, that’s all.
Me: No, a preference is preferring broccoli to asparagus. You can say that because asparagus will always taste the same, even when prepared differently.
Me: And we’re not always the same at all. There are hundreds of millions of us and we’re each completely different from the next. If an employer said not hiring Black people was a preference would you agree?
Him: No, but that’s based on stereotypes.
Me: … And what is yours based on, facts?"
people never give reasons other than stereotypes, too, and they don’t realize how fucked up and institutional/structural their “preferences” are. they swear on everything it isn’t/can’t be offensive, while you are in their face telling them it is. I also find these comments are almost always unsolicited, i.e. I’m walking by a group of white men in an establishment and they just feel the need to tell me they ‘don’t like/date/fuck black chicks’ just ‘cause I make eye contact with them.(via siddharthasmama)